A lot of your life works. But not this.
In your relationship
or when something’s on the line
something takes over.
And it doesn’t go the way you want.
When it matters
At work, you handle things.
You make decisions.
People rely on you when it counts.
But here, it doesn’t hold.
You can try to fix it.
But if you meet it the same way,
it usually ends the same way.
This changes how you meet it
so it doesn’t keep ending like that.
What’s actually happening
It happens fast.
A moment shifts.
Something gets said.
Or something’s on the line.
You’re already in it before you know it.
Your thinking tightens.
Your body reacts.
You try to do it better this time.
But it ends the same way.
Why it hasn’t changed
You’ve tried to work it out.
Talk it through.
Think it through.
Handle it better next time.
It can help. For a bit.
Then it’s back.
And when it matters again,
it’s the same reaction.
The same dynamic.
The same result.
Because what’s driving it
hasn’t changed.
A different approach
We don’t stay at the level of the situation.
That’s not where this changes.
We go to what’s happening in you
while it’s actually happening.
What you’re reacting to.
How you’re reading it.
What feels true in that moment.
We stay with it until something shifts.
Not later. Right there.
And we change how you meet it.
So when it happens again,
you don’t respond the same way.
And it doesn’t go the same way.
What begins to change
You start to catch it as it’s happening.
You don’t get pulled the same way.
You don’t react the same way.
You see more clearly what’s actually going on
and what’s not.
You respond with more clarity.
More steadiness.
More choice.
And soon,
your relationship changes.
Your decisions get clearer.
Things start to line up.
Who this is for
You’ve handled a lot in your life.
But something here isn’t working.
You can see the pattern.
You’ve tried to deal with it.
And you’re done ending up in the same place.
You’re willing to look at what’s actually happening
and stay with it long enough to change it.
If you want something surface-level, this isn’t it.
Ways to work together
This work is direct.
We focus on what’s happening in real time.
Here are the ways to do that:
1:1 Coaching
When something specific isn’t working
and you want to deal with it directly.
We work with what’s actually happening
not just the story about it.
This is where most men start,
especially when something needs to move now.
Relationship Coaching
When the relationship matters
but you keep ending up in the same place.
We focus on staying connected
without losing your footing
especially when it’s hard.
When staying the same isn’t an option.
Men’s Groups & Retreats
Work with other men in real time.
This brings things to the surface quickly.
Less room to stay in your usual patterns.
This is where the work deepens and holds.
If something here is landing, you already know it.
We’ll look at what’s going on
and get clear on what needs to change.
Some people come in knowing exactly what they want.
Others figure that out in the first conversation.
We’ll look at what’s happening
and decide what makes sense.
He gets to the root fast — and things actually shift in the moment.
—Jayson Gaddis
Host of The Smart Couple Podcast
What people are saying…
Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s really going on and bring people back to what matters.
In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.
Jayson Gaddis
Host of The Smart Couple Podcast, Founder – The Relationship School™
Reuvain is one of the most skilled and gifted therapists and coaches I’ve known.
He has a laser-like focus and gets quickly to what’s actually driving the issue.
If you’re serious about doing real work, he’s someone you want in your corner.
Michael Vladeck
Family Coach and Counselor — Conscious Parenting In The Digital Age
Reuvain has supported me for over 20 years — including through some of the hardest periods in my marriage.
He doesn’t avoid what’s difficult. He helps you face it and work through it.
The result is real change in how you show up and how the relationship works.
Dr. Will Van Derveer, MD
Psychiatrist and Co-Founder of Integrative Psychiatric Institute, Boulder, CO
Reuvain brings a rare combination of real support and real challenge.
He sees where you’re holding back and calls you out of it — without losing connection.
That’s what actually creates change.
Dr. Pierre Brunschwig
Physician and Founder — Helios Integrated Medicine, Boulder, CO
Reuvain creates a level of trust that makes it possible to go into what’s actually difficult.
I’ve brought some of the hardest parts of my relationship to him and felt supported staying with it.
That’s what made real change possible.
Marco Chung-Shu La
Clinic Director and Acupuncturist, Mandala Integrative Medicine Clinic
The individual and group work that I have done with Reuvain has been an extraordinary and central part of my personal growth.
Rabbi Marc Soloway
Congregation Bonei Shalom, Boulder, CO